This week is a little bit of a different Wedding Wednesday post, but I definitely think if you are getting married you will still find it interesting.
Jared and I have been reading The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and working through it with our church small group. This book has been so interesting and really helpful as we journey through our first year of marriage. If you aren’t familiar with the book, it breaks down relationships and how love is portrayed and appreciated into 5 different languages.
To make it a little easier, I associated each love language with a different song. This should make it a little easier to help stick in your brain! I know it helps me to think about it this way!
The 5 Love Languages
1. Words of Affirmation
“Tell her About It” by Billy Joel
2. Quality Time
“When I’m With You” by Ben Rector
3. Receiving Gifts
“This Gift” by Glen Hansard
4. Acts of Service
“Whistle While You Work” by Adriana Caselotti
5. Physical Touch
“Kiss” by Prince
In the book, it walks through each love language and gives examples and talks about the different dialects within the languages. Since walking through the book, it has made me very aware of Jared’s love languages and has motivated me to speak his love language.
Each person typically has one main love language and may have a strong secondary love language in some cases. To find our your love language take the quiz here. Jared’s main love language is words of affirmation and secondary is physical touch where as my primary love language is acts of service and secondary is receiving gifts.
Since words of affirmation are so important to Jared, I’ve been trying to tell him I love him more and more importantly expressing why I love him. In return he has been showing me he loves me by changing the oil in my car, doing laundry, and other various acts of service. He also came home one night with a card as a small token of his love.
If you are dating, engaged or married, I HIGHLY recommend reading this book. Not only is helpful in strengthening your relationship with your significant other, but I’ve found it’s helpful in other areas of my life like my relationship with my co-workers or friends. Once you start reading the book, it’s easy to identify what someone’s love language is.