The wedding is over, the craziness has died down…now what? Time to break out your lettering skills and write your thank you cards. This has been one of the most difficult things for me to do. Simply now because I’m back to the real world and thank you cards just get brushed to the side. A few weeks ago I finally mailed out all my thank you cards and boy did it feel good.
Below are some common questions answered to save you some thank you card stress.
How long do I have to send thank you cards?
It’s a widespread rule of thumb that couples have at least a year after their big day to send their wedding thank you notes. I promise however, if you wait a whole year to thank you cards you will definitely get some strange looks.
I wanted to include photos from our wedding on our stationary, so by the time we got our pictures back and got the stationary ordered and delivered, it was about 2 1/2 months after our wedding. Prolonging the time they were actually sent. I dropped mine in the mail roughly four months after my wedding.
What should I include in my thank you note?
I think there is nothing more tacky than receiving a thank you note from a bride and groom with a blanket pre-written message that says something along the lines of “Thank you so much for your support on our big day! We are so appreciative of your generous gift.” That makes me think, wow did they even know what I got them. I recommend hand writing all of your letters and including a personal message. It definitely takes more times, but it is well worth the personalization. Let your recipient know that you love their gift and tell how you’ve used it in your marriage so far.
How Do I Keep Track?
During showers, parties, wedding make sure you Maid of Honor keeps a running list of everything you’ve received and who gave it to you. This will be your lifesaver weeks following your wedding! I made a spreadsheet and then changed them to green once their note had been written.
I Don’t Have Time to Write Thank You Notes, What Do I Do?
Believe me I get it! I’ve been to a couple weddings especially when I was in college where I mustered up enough money to buy a friend a nice gift and NEVER received a thank you note. How disappointing! I know it’s no fun, but you’ll be so glad you were able to thank everyone personally once you are finished.
Give yourself a deadline and stick to it! Either knock them all out in one Sunday afternoon or pace yourself and write 5 a day until you are finished. Whatever gets the job done!
Your friends and family took the time to find you a special gift, so take the time to thank them properly!