One hot topic during our wedding planning process was our decision to not have kids at our wedding. This was a controversial between our families, but it was something we felt VERY strongly about. This wasn’t a decision I made, this is something Jared and I agreed on together and decided it would be best for us.
One reason, we decided against inviting children was the sheer number of children that would have been there. Between both of our families and friends, there would be close to 25 children there. That is A LOT of kids running around.
Along with the number of children, the caterers don’t care if they are serving adults or children they charge per person. So at approximately $17 per person that was an extra $425 we could save. When you are on a tight budget that is a BIG amount to save.
Another reason we decided against children was the noise/distraction factor. There is nothing more distracting at a ceremony than a noisy child or a crying baby. Even if the mom takes them out when they get noisy there is that still initial distraction that can’t be taken back.
Also, at receptions, kids tend to hog the dance floor. I’ve been to a lot of weddings where kids are running and playing on the dance floor during the dinner or while people are dancing. Not only is it tacky and annoying but it causes guests to do not want to dance.
To let our guests know that we wanted them to enjoy the night children free. We added a simple line of text to the invitation that said, “Adults Only, Please”. If you wanted a more subtle approach you can address the invitations in a way where most people would understand the children are not invited, however, we wanted to make it clear to our guests what our wishes were.