It’s the most wonderful time of the year, but some people aren’t always feeling so jolly. Whether it’s a co-worker, a neighbor or a family member there are always those people in your life that are just generally unhappy and a struggle to be around. It can be very difficult to surround yourself with these types of people and not let them drag you down. I wanted to share 5 Ways to deal with unhappy people, to make your life and hopefully theirs a little easier.
Unhappiness is something that varies, it can be deeply rooted due to insecurities, the constant comparison of someone or maybe something much deeper that you aren’t aware of. It can also be simply someone having a bad day and being unhappy in that moment because they haven’t had their coffee yet, are stressed out by a deadline, or woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
5 Ways to Deal With Unhappy People
In the words of Selena Gomez, “Kill ‘Em With Kindness”. This is the best approach in my opinion even though it’s hard sometimes, and trust me I get it! It’s probably whats best for all parties. I’m the type of person that shows my emotion all over my face, so it takes a lot for me to pull it together and be nice to people when I’m not feeling it.
Like your mom probably said growing up, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Sometimes letting them have some time to breathe will help them be in a better mood or let the situation die down. When I’m in a bad mood I need to just go lay in bed by myself and watch YouTube videos for a while and I’m good to go.
This is key, maybe the unhappy moment will pass and this person will go back to themselves. This might take a day or it might take a year. Just be patient.
If it’s someone you don’t know very well try to be understanding and remember you might not know the full situation. This is definitely something that’s hard for me because one of my weakest characteristics is empathy, but I have to just push my self to be understanding.
Sometimes there is something going on in their lives that’s deeper than you know and if it’s a coworker or someone you can’t get on a deeper level with it’s best to just simply pray for them. If it’s someone you feel comfortable talking to on a deeper level, I encourage you to talk them and pray with them or let them know you’re praying for them because things seem a little off. This may open up a deeper conversation and allow you to have a stronger bond.
This time of year can be very difficult for some people, due to not being close to family or a reminder of lost loved ones or even wrapping Q4 deadlines. You never really know what’s going on. These are very simple ways to deal with unhappy people, but I hope this a gentle reminder.