Since moving to a new city (Fayetteville), Jared and I have been really happy. We both love our jobs and we love each other and we love exploring our city together, but something that has been a real struggle for us and really me is making friends.
Something you may not know about me is I am an introvert, this is something that has progressed throughout my lifetime. In college, I was the life of the party I had no problem talking to new people and making friends, but as I am gotten older I have become more reserved.
I have a really hard time opening up to people and really just initiating things to do or conversations. I would say I have a few close acquaintances and even “friends”, but I’m having a really hard time with not having a best friend. Like sure, Jared’s my best friend but I mean like a ride or die gal pal to go to happy hour with, watch trashy tv together or even just talk and hang out on a weekly basis.
I feel like I have tried everything… I’ve tried small groups at church. I’ve tried my adult dance class. I’ve even tried Bumble BFF (side note maybe it works in a bigger city, but there are some really odd people on there).
In an attempt to be more transparent in 2018, I thought I would open up about this topic because I feel like it’s something people don’t talk about enough and I know there are others like me struggling to have or make friends whether you are in a new city or maybe an old city where all your friends have moved away.
Just know that you aren’t alone and I am struggling with the same thing you are.
Do you have tips for making new girlfriends? Let me know in the comments below!