If you’re a girl you’ve experienced drama. Trust me it’s not fun! Whether you’re the pot stirrer or the “innocent bystander” there’s always those people in your life that create and feed off of drama.
Any time you are dealing with drama it’s easy to let it consume your life and be the center of your focus. It tends to be the topic of conversation with all your friends and an over all time suck. I’d like to think that since I am older and more mature now that drama isn’t a thing, but there is drama everywhere, it’s choosing whether or not your going to engage with it.
If you are dealing with drama with your co-worker, sister, roommate, team member, whatever it may be, below are some of the ways I find easiest to move past silly drama.
How To Handle Drama
- Take a break to breathe: I’m a mega introvert and I don’t handle confrontation well. I tend to keep my thoughts to myself and get very emotional. Over the years, I have learned that it’s best for me to take a break, be by myself and collect my thoughts.
- I often write down my thoughts or what I want to say to the other person so I can remain calm and don’t get flustered once I am ready to talk. There is no harm and say “I need a little time to collect my thoughts or can I have second to myself.”
- Confide in close friends: It’s easy to get wrapped up in all of the drama and create a storm. It’s also super easy for this to dominate your conversations and potentially put your friends in an awkward position and maybe even lose friends over it if they have to choose sides. Find a couple close friends that you can trust and can listen so you talk about the issue in a safe space, but leave everyone else out of it.
- Stay pre-occupied: If this is roommate drama or family drama it’s sometimes hard to avoid, but try staying over at someone else’s house until you feel comfortable again or find ways to keep yourself busy by reading, cleaning, coloring, etc.
- Remove the toxins: There are some people who LIVE for the drama. You’ll know these people quickly because you will quickly learn they have ruined past friendship or have frequent moments of over exaggeration. If you don’t see the issue being resolved than it’s probably better to invest your time in other deep meaningful relationship that are uplifting and encouraging.
- As it says in Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” You need to surround yourself with people that are going to encourage you and help you grow. As hard as it is to chose not to be friends with someone, sometimes it’s best for you even if it is difficult or “awkward”.
- Move on! Give yourself a couple days to be upset but then girl, go conquer the world! Think of it like a break up but a friend break up. You need a little time to yourself, but then it’s time to move on! “She turned her pain in power and visions in victory.”
“A confident woman makes no time for negativity, drama, or manipulation, because she is centered in who she is and has no time for chaos.”
How do you handle with drama in your life? Let me know in the comment below!